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In an earlier post titled “It doesn’t seem that the storm in ending any time soon (Part I) ” Angie promised to explain the meaning of the word “important” and the meaning of the expression “feeling important”. She had read about those words in a book that she considers one of the most interesting life-changing books she has ever read:

“There is one all-important law of human conduct. If we obey that law, we shall almost never get into trouble. In fact, that law, if obeyed, will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless trouble.The law is this: Always make the other person feel important.”

John Dewey, [one of America’s most profound philosophers], said that the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature; and William James [psychologist and philosopher] said: “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” As I have already pointed out, it is this urge that differentiates us from the animals. It is this urge that has been responsible for civilization itself. “

“Philosophers have been speculating on the rules of human relationships for thousands of years, and out of all that speculation, there has evolved only one important precept. It is not new. It is as old as history. Zoroaster taught it to his followers in Persia twenty five hundred years ago. Confucius preached it in China twenty-four centuries ago. Lao-tse, the founder of Taoism, taught it to his disciples in the Valley of the Han. Buddha preached it on the bank oft he Holy Ganges five hundred years before Christ. The sacred books of Hinduism taught it a thousand years before that. Jesus taught itamong the stony hills of Judea nineteen centuries ago. Jesus summed it up in one thought – probably the most important rule in the world: “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”

“You want the approval of those with whom you come in contact. You want recognition of your true worth. You want a feeling that you are important in your little world. You don’t want to listen to cheap, insincere flattery, but you do crave sincere appreciation. You want your friends and associates to be, as Charles Schwab [one of the first people in American business to be paid a salary of over a million dollars a year],  put it, “hearty in their approbation and lavish in their praise.” All of us want that. So let’s obey the Golden Rule, and give unto others what we would have others give unto us,  How? When? Where? The answer is: All the time, everywhere.”

“You don’t have to wait until you are ambassador to France or chairman of the Clambake Committee of your lodge before you use this philosophy of appreciation. You can work magic with it almost every day.”

“Little phrases such as “I’m sorry to trouble you,” “Would you be so kind as to —-? ” “Won’t you please?” ” Would you mind?” “Thank you” – little courtesies like these oil the cogs of the monotonous grind of everyday life – and, incidentally, they are the hallmark of good breeding.”

To feel important is to be appreciated. Appreciation leads to growth, and growth leads to exploration and discovery. We need to start somewhere, don’t we? We need to build the foundation of something, don’t we? So why don’t we start to show appreciation for what we have ? Why don’t we start appreciating the people, the earth, this breath, this life, the wind, the weather, the sky, the office, the things we see everyday and that we take for granted. Why don’t we stop looking at things as they will always be there, they won’t.. Open your eyes… Nothing is stable, everything is changing. Nothing can be stagnant, if it is, it is dead. Move on… Smile, be Happy…

(The text in italic is taken from the book of Dale Carnegie, “How to Make Friends and Influence People”, the rest is by Zeina Gabriel)

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